Dear Other Parents,
When you won’t let your son wear pink or play with dolls, you are teaching him something. When you tell him that things are either “girl toys” or “boy toys”, you are teaching him something. You are teaching him that toys and interests, in particular, are segregated into “for boys” and “for girls”.
So when my daughter brings one of her three Star Wars lunchboxes to school, you are teaching him, whether you realize it or not, to pick on her and tell her “That’s a boy’s lunchbox.” You are teaching him to call her out for her interests, and to try to tell her that those interests aren’t for her, that she isn’t good enough for them. You are teaching him to try to make her feel bad about what she likes.
Toys are not gender specific. Comics are not gender specific. Movies are not gender specific. STAR WARS, THE AVENGERS, AND BATMAN ARE NOT GENDER SPECIFIC. My daughter has as much of a right to carry a Darth Vader helmet lunchbox as your son, just as he has a right to carry a LaLa Loopsy one. (Yup, he has every right to carry one of those, too)
Parents, PLEASE STOP teaching your children to discriminate. In the process, you are teaching them to pick on other children. You are teaching them to pick on my kid, my smart, beautiful, amazing daughter, whose boyfriends are Darth Vader, Captain America, and Thor.
May the Force be with You,